| Rhada - Entertainer, GENE - Perfectionist
This is not the easiest combination of types in a relationship, but
it is certainly a case where opposites may attract. The fun-loving
Entertainer can make life much more exciting for the down-to-earth,
serious Perfectionist and the Perfectionist can provide an anchor of
stability for the Entertainer.
When bad things happen, the Entertainer doesn't let it bother her for
long. Negative experiences just roll off her and she blows them away, so
this light-hearted way of looking at things can force the Perfectionist
to either develop more of a sense of humor, or get very cranky fighting
it. If he can learn to relax a bit and let the Entertainer
introduce him to some new experiences, he may be able to improve his
ability to be flexible and spontaneous.
For the Perfectionist, rules are what life is all about. This can be
a major source of stress in the relationship because the Entertainer has
little interest in rule following. She generally follows her
inclinations, which can send the Perfectionist's blood pressure soaring,
as he needs to know well in advance what the plans are and exactly how
they are to be carried out. For the Perfectionist to face unplanned
events and sudden changes of schedule makes him nuts. On the other hand
when she feels that her freedom is being curtailed in any way, the
Entertainer is sure to rebel.
The Perfectionist's habit of criticizing and nitpicking his partner's
supposed faults and foibles sends the Entertainer to the nearest exit.
When the Perfectionist starts what she thinks of as "whining"
she makes a quick exit. She is not about to stay around, waiting to hear
more about what her mate thinks is wrong with her.
One of the happier aspects of this pairing is that the Entertainer
appreciates the safe haven the Perfectionist provides when she is tired
of playing and needs some time out. She knows the Perfectionist will be
there to take care of her material needs, and that she can count on him
for consistency and commitment.
But there is an essential problem here because, while the Entertainer
may be quick to make a commitment, once the original fires of passion
have died down, she is likely to just as quickly break it. The
Perfectionist needs a sense of continuity, so in this relationship he
sets himself up to feel anxious all the time because he never knows what
to expect or whether his Entertainer mate will be there when he gets
home. And he is someone who needs to know what to expect. For her part,
the Entertainer cares little about what others think. She does her own
thing and makes her own rules. Her tendency to become quickly addicted
to substances and experiences troubles the Perfectionist who needs to
know his parameters and stick within them. When others break the rules
it makes him crazy, and since the Entertainer is all about rule
breaking, this couple may find maintaining a happy relationship more
trouble than it is worth.
On the other hand, if neither of them has too strong a degree of
their type, they may be able to work out enough of a compromise so that
the Perfectionist tones down his rigidity and critical nature, and the
Entertainer does a little less partying. The Perfectionist will have to
learn not to cringe at his mate's outspoken, uninhibited manner, while
the Entertainer could work on developing a little more self-discipline.
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